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边境牧羊犬,印尼这些村子 妈妈们都“不见了”?-雷火电竞

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原标题:这些村子,妈妈们居然都“不见了”?

在这些当地,妈妈成为一种“奢侈品”。

又是一年母亲节。想必各位都现已使出浑身解数,取悦了家里那位“女王”了。

假如说这世上有什么是最名贵的,我想妈妈的陪同算是一种。咱们许多人一向把母亲的陪同和支付视为天经地义的作业。

但这个国际是许多元的。“母亲”的意义,以及孩子和母亲的联系,在国际各地有不同的注解。

在印尼,有这样一些村落,鲜有妈妈们的身影。当地小孩们,许多并不是妈妈带大的。

这些村落因而乃至被命名为“少母村”。

“少母村”是怎么发生的?

In eastern Indonesia there are areas where almost all young mothers have gone to work abroad。 Indonesians refer to these communities as the “motherless villages”。 

在印度东部区域,当地简直一切年青的母亲们都去国外作业了。印尼当地人称这些区域为“少母村”。

Millions of Indonesian women have left their families behind to work abroad。 The East Lombok district exports the most people。

几百万的印尼女人离开了他们的家庭,出国作业。印尼东部一个叫龙目岛(Lombok)的区域,是劳动力输出重地。

Most of the men here work as farmers or labourers, earning a fraction of what the women can make as domestic workers or nannies overseas。

龙目岛的男人们许多都在务农,或是干些体力活。他们赚的钱远比不上当地的女人。这些女人在国外做家政或是保姆的作业。

Via BBC

为了赚更多钱,这些女人出国离家,造成了当地一种特别的现象:她们的子女们在没有母亲陪同的环境下长大。

缺少了母亲的陪同,当地的孩子们的人生发生了怎样的改动?这些孩子们与母亲的爱情,是否因而有所改动?

Karimatul Adibia‘s mother left when she was one year old, so she cannot even remember a time when they lived together。

一位名为Karimatul Adibia的女孩,说她妈妈在她一岁左右就离家了;因而,她乃至想不起任何与母亲共同日子的画面。

It wasn‘t until she had nearly finished primary school that her mother was able to travel home to see her。

直到她差不多小学结业的时分,她的妈妈才有时机偶然回家看看她。

But by this stage Karimatul looked upon her aunt, the woman who had raised her, as her mother。

但那时,Karimatul 现已把抚育她长大的阿姨,视为自己的妈妈了。

“I was so confused,” Karimatul says。 “I remember my mum was crying。 She said to my aunt, ‘Why doesn’t my daughter know she is mine?‘

“我记住其时我妈在哭。她对我阿姨说‘为什么我自己亲女儿不知道我才是她妈妈?‘ 她的话让我很疑问。”

Karimatul‘s aunt replied that they had no photograph of her, and that all Karimatul knew about her mother was her name and address, so it was no wonder she was finding it all hard to understand。

Karimatul的阿姨解说说,他们没有相片,Karimatul 从小也只知道妈妈的姓名和地址,因而Karimatul很难了解‘她才是妈妈’也就家常便饭了。

“I felt this overwhelming feeling that I had really missed her, but at the same time I felt kind of angry that she had left me since I was young,” Karimatul says。

Karimatul :“(见到我亲妈后)我激烈地感觉到,我从前十分牵挂她。但一起,我心里也有种怨气,气她在我那么小的时分就离开了我。”

Via BBC

虽然一开端感到疏离,现在13岁的Karimatul现在简直每晚都会跟妈妈视频通话,也会时不时发短信。但Karimatul 表明,保持这段母女联系,仍是有一丝丝困难。

“Even when my mum comes home for breaks now, I want to stay with my aunt。 She asks me to stay with her but I just say I will come later。”

“哪怕我亲妈放假时回来看我了,我仍是想跟我阿姨待一块儿。我妈让我陪着她,但我会说‘我晚点再过来’。”

Karimatul的阿姨是个奇特的女人。除了Karimatul,她还抚育了别的九个孩子;这些孩子里,只要一个是她亲生的,其他都是她在国外作业的兄弟姐妹的孩子。

现年50来岁的她说,自己是相等对待这几个小孩的,不管是不是她的亲骨肉。

但并不是每一位当地小孩,都有这么仁慈精干的阿姨或许姑姑,替代母亲的人物照料他们。

Ely Susiawati才11岁的时分,她妈妈就把她留给祖母,离家挣钱去了。

Ely的爸爸妈妈离婚了。为了给自己的小家庭挣钱,Ely的妈妈Martia去沙特阿拉伯当家政服务人员。

爸爸妈妈的分隔以及母亲的离家,让Ely到现在仍是十分伤心。她说看到同学们跟爸爸妈妈在一起的时分,心里十分仰慕,一起也很丢失。Ely说:“我期望我的妈妈也能在家里陪我。”

据报道,印尼大约三分之二的外出务工人员是女人。她们到更兴旺的国家打工,赚取比家园高的薪水,把钱“寄”回家,让下一代取得更高的起点。

Ely hasn‘t seen her mother for nine years, but her mother’s wages mean she is now the first in her family to go to university。

Ely 现已九年没有亲眼见到妈妈了。但她母亲在海外的薪水让她成为宗族中,第一个上大学的人。

She is studying finance at a university in Mataram, and says she has come to understand the sacrifice her mother has made。

她在马塔兰市的一所大学学习金融专业。上了大学后,她开端理解母亲所做出的献身。

“If she hadn‘t gone, I wouldn’t have been able to study。 She makes it possible to live this life。 I am always proud of my mum。 She is a wonder woman! There is no stronger woman than my mum。”

“假如她没有离家,我或许无法在这里念书。她让我完成现在这种日子。我一向为我的母亲感到自豪。她是一位女超人。没有女人比我妈妈更强壮的了。”

Via BBC

而Ely 的母亲Martia,也叙说了自己远离子女在异国挣钱,心里的挣扎和取舍。

“Things haven‘t been easy for our family and we have had to struggle,” she said。 “Of course I miss Ely, but the reality of our situation means we have had to be separated。 I am so incredibly proud of her, the way she studies very hard。”

“咱们家的(经济)状况不太好,所以咱们得努力奋斗。我当然牵挂自己的女儿Ely, 但实际的状况意味着咱们有必要得分隔。我女儿让我十分自豪,她学习很吃苦。”

She says she will come home when Ely has finished her degree。 That will be in about three more years, 

她说女儿念完大学后她就会回家了。那大约是三年后了。

Via BBC

除了印尼的女人,这样远离子女的母亲,在菲律宾也很常见。

据报道,稀有百万的菲律宾女人在国外打工。一位成年的菲律宾女人,叙说了她与妈妈怎么战胜间隔和时差,保持一份悠远的亲情。

My mother, like many Filipinos, is an excellent storyteller—very expressive。 She’d emphatically move her hands, shimmy her shoulders, and even do impersonations。

正如其他菲律宾人相同,我的妈妈十分拿手讲故事,十分长于表达。说作业的时分,她会用力地挥着手,晃动膀子,乃至还会仿照他人。

But I couldn’t see any of that this time because we were talking on the phone。 My only visual of her was the word “Mom” glowing in white text on my phone’s black screen。 

但我从来没见过她这么做,由于咱们总是在电话里沟通。关于母亲的相关画面回忆,都是在我手机上;黑色的屏幕上跳出“母亲”亮亮的字眼。

It is quite common in Filipino families for parents and children to live apart。 Many parents travel abroad to places like Japan, the United Arab Emirates, Germany, the United States—anywhere they can go to make a living—even by taking care of other people’s children。 Today, an estimated 10 million Filipinos are working overseas。 They send home an estimated $27 billion a year in remittances。

关于菲律宾人来说,爸爸妈妈和子女别离两地是很常见的。许多菲律宾爸爸妈妈会去日本,阿联酋,德国,美国, 任何他们能找到作业的国家挣钱,哪怕是做照料他人小孩的作业。今日大约有1000万菲律宾人在海外作业。他们每年汇款回菲律宾的金额高达270亿美元。

Via scmp.com

但不管间隔怎么,母爱的力气仍是能跨过时差和间隔,用各种或许的方法,传递给子女,不管是函件,电话,邮件,或是现在的视频电话等等。

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